Compassion for Self

 

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How do you see yourself?

How do you describe yourself?

How do you fit into the world around you?

Do you live in community

Or are you an island alone?

Dear One, it is impossible to truly love another if you do not love yourself. For all are connected and how you feel about yourself affects how you feel about others. And so, the work begins to better understand why you are so self-critical. From where did this habit come?

Begin by noticing how you describe yourself to others. How long have you judged yourself for words spoken or actions done in the past? How often do you compare yourself to others and feel unworthy or undeserving of another’s love or admiration? What do you think when you see your reflection in a mirror? How often are negative words of description used in these situations?

It is time to reclaim your power from old ways of thinking. Children are open and receptive to love and new experiences and believe all that is said to them. Much of this has been done in love, but can often be misconstrued because of the naivety of the child. A comment made by a tired adult in attempts to teach may be misunderstood by a child, yet held close to the heart and carried throughout life.

Everyone loves in the best manner that they are able, but often it is not given in the way most needed at the time. The lesson to be learned is how love yourself in the way you need to be loved. This can be done by reflecting on an incident from the past and offering comfort to that younger self as the adult you are today. For only you know how best to comfort your younger self. Embrace that child self and tell them what they most needed to hear at the time. Practice this exercise and see how powerful it can be for you.

Dear One, you all embodied to learn lessons and many of you chose difficult lessons. This does not mean that you are unable to move through them and past them. But it takes time and compassion to clearly see the way forward. It also is very helpful to have community to guide you forward. This community could be formal or informal, large or very intimate. As you grow, your needs for this will change over time. Have faith that the teachers, the companions, the community you need at this very moment will be provided. Trust the synchronicity of your life.

The world is awakening at this time and many of you are going through personal growth that can feel overwhelming. You are not alone in this and you are exactly where you need to be at this time. If you are just beginning to realize how your previous way of life no longer serves you, understand that you were not ready until this moment to make the changes required to move forward.

Begin today to gently reflect and make changes in how you see yourself in the world. Ask for help if you cannot do this alone. Allow synchronicity to take you where you need to go.

You are connected to the All and embedded in the web of connection. The forward movement of others affects you as that positive energy moves down the energetic filaments of the web. In the same fashion, any personal growth that you experience affects others.

This is the time for a major awakening and you will be offered more opportunities for growth and reflection. Do not be afraid to take them, to use compassion and forgiveness in your personal reflections.

You, Dear One, have come so far

And have the potential

To reach higher than ever imagined.

There is no limit to how far you can go

But do it gently with compassion for self.

Allow your internal light to fill your physical body

With love and only love.

It is time.

Dear One With All of Thee.

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Truth and Illusion

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What is truth?

Is your truth the same as another’s?

How can you see past the illusions of this world?

Is it even possible?

Dear One, there is only one Universal truth and it is built on love. Everything else is an illusion. However, understanding this in a world of illusion is a difficult task. For there are so many opportunities to be led astray. How can you keep your course in a chaotic world swirling with illusion?

You have been given the tools to see past the smokescreens of others. And they include intuition, but also compassion. This path is filled with your personal illusions and those of others which cause you to doubt your ability to discern what your own truth is.

You all have the ability to recognize your own truth but you do not yet trust yourself enough to believe what your intuition is telling you. This requires practice by allowing time to go within and connect to your higher self through quiet times, meditation and contemplation. You are being led by your higher self throughout your day. You have just forgotten how to listen.

All who are present here upon this physical plane are on a journey of awakening. And despite what you may think, more are awakened at this time than ever before. Many will not be able to complete their journey. But they will travel further on their path with the help from those like you who are already awakening to their true selves.

How can you help them? It is by living a life of compassion and loving kindness. There is no need to engage with others in angry discourse due to a difference of opinion. As you move forward on your path, a deeper understanding of the Universal truth will be revealed to you. For all have an individual path of learning and awakening which differs from that of others. The truths revealed have not changed. It is you who have changed as you move forward, becoming more open to the next level of teachings to be revealed to you.

Because another disagrees with you does not make them your enemy, for remember that you are all connected and you would be fighting with yourself. All are searching for love and connection. And many hold onto beliefs because they see no other way. Can you show compassion and loving kindness to them rather than anger and judgment?

Remember that this plane is a learning ground and all have a purpose. And some do have the purpose of being a catalyst to move others forward. They have a choice of being a benevolent catalyst or a more derisive catalyst. That is their lesson. Your lesson is to respond with grace rather than to re-act in anger or judgment.

But all are here to move forward, awakening to their own divinity and connection to the All. Can you use your intuition to discern if what is presented to you is truth or illusion? Can you rise above the discord and be a beacon of light, of calm, of integrity and love? This is how you help others awaken. It is by providing them with an example of how to be in chaotic times.

Go within and become more accustomed to how your higher self speaks to you. Move through your day knowing and trusting that you are being guided constantly through your connection with the higher planes. As you do this you raise your own vibration and the vibration around you.

This raising of the energetic vibration on this plane will most certainly affect others. It is their choice whether they re-act with fear or respond in love. You in your daily life can be a benevolent catalyst just by allowing yourself to awaken and trusting your connection with the All.

Dear One, do not spend time trying to convince others to believe your truth. Show them by how you live and move through this world. Use compassion. Send love rather than anger and judgment. You are a being of light and are capable of being a beacon for others; lighting the path for them. It is their choice whether to follow. But perhaps you will show them a way they have never before envisioned.

Be the loving soul that you are.

Walk in strength and confidence

That the world is unfolding as it should.

Help the pendulum of life shift

In the direction of love.

It is possible through you.

Dear One With All of Thee.

Remember

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Remember this day all the love which surrounds you

Remember those who have crossed your path

And bless them for their impact on your life.

Remember the connection that brings you

Strength, knowledge and guidance.

And remember who you really are,

An eternal being of light, created in love.

Dear One, do not allow your human mind to block out the truth of your existence. Do not allow your suffering to cause a permanent rift between you and your Source. Instead, embrace the love which surrounds you. Understand that suffering is only a step towards enlightenment.

Would you truly move forward on your own if you were safe and settled in your daily existence? Would you readily choose to leave behind stability and complacency in order to travel out of your personal comfort zone? This journey of yours includes forward movement which often must be initiated from an external source, be it from this realm or from another realm.

This is how your connection to the All works with you. Synchronistic encounters, creative tension in relationships or actions, many of which are challenging you to find the strength within to move forward. Dear One, your purpose here is not to settle into a protective trance and not emerge until you return home. You chose to come here to experience new challenges to ‘test your wings’, to see how well you could fly in the face of adversity and adventure.

There is no judgment or punishment involved in your path homeward. Quite the opposite, there is only loving support, watchful anticipation and gratitude for you as you go through this experiential existence. Do not doubt yourself or your worthiness for love. Understand that all of thee are being encouraged to ‘spread your wings’ and to fly with grace and love.

Understand the connection that you have with all of creation when situations arise that are challenging for you. Understand that all are a learning opportunity for you. You have the choice to engage in love or in anger. You have the choice to walk away with grace or in fear. Can you find the compassion within for others who are creating the tension and see them through a lens of love? Can you see others, even those who have been in your life for many years, can you see them as if for the first time?

The choice is yours whether to act or to re-act towards others. The choice is yours whether to practice self-love or self-judgment. The choice is yours whether to cower in doubt and fear or to take a chance with faith and courage. Whatever you choose, our love for you continues in all of its intensity. And whatever you choose, we will always provide another opportunity to grow and to soar.

Remember, Dear One, to breathe, to love and to allow time to just sit in silence and peace as often as you can. These quiet times allow you to re-connect with the All in a manner which will empower you with the strength and knowledge you need to move forward.

May you know love in its purest form.

May you accept this love and share it will all who cross your path.

Shake the mist from your eyes

And see clearly the magnificent light which surrounds you.

Feel the warmth of our embrace

As we love you unconditionally and support you on your journey home.

Know peace. Know Joy and share it with all who cross your path.

Dearest One with All of Thee.

 

The Light of Dawn

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Have you seen the sunrise in all of its glory?

It begins with a muted hue of light

Bursting into a tapestry of red, purple, pink, orange.

Spreading across the horizon.

A precursor to the expansion of light

Eradicating the last vestiges of darkness.

So too, with you,

 And your awakening to who you really are.

Dear One, how often have you seen the dawn and reveled in its beauty, in the hope that comes with the light? The darkness fades as the fire in the sky emerges slowly and then dramatically fills your field of vision with color and beauty.

When you see this every day, consider the similarities to your own personal awakening, as your internal flame bursts forth to fill you with hope. In the same way, your light fills your immediate surroundings and beyond, reaching further than you realize. Your personal light diminishes the shadows of fear as it rises further, joining others and their personal flames of spirit and love and hope.

You are the solution. You are the source of love. You are the impetus for change. You have the power to create a world of love with a brilliant light that emanates from within to all who cross your path. You bathe in the light of others who wish to share their hope and love with you. The brilliant dawn you see every day is a reflection of you and how far-reaching your offerings of love can be.

You, Dear One, have that fire within and it is yearning to emerge from behind the clouds of insecurity and fear. It is there now, seeking a way to reach others. It may be liberated with a conscious decision on your part to share your love, your vulnerabilities, your connection with others. Or, it may seep out through the wounds you nurse, those cracks in your external veneer that show others that you, too, have suffered and survived.

You are not alone in your suffering, just as you are not alone in your strength. Do not focus on the suffering, but on the emergence of strength that is a result of that suffering. For every trial you have encountered on this personal journey of yours has empowered you more. You have not failed. You have survived, you have thrived, and you have the experience to help others.

Your own life experiences offer you a reason for compassion for others. Rather than judging others, consider how they are just like you; learning, growing, seeking love and connection. For you all have come from the same Source. You all have memories of that intimate connection with All. And you all seek a way to find that connection once again in this world of illusions.

Allow that internal flame to emerge as a beacon to others, as a source of love and compassion towards others who are just like you. Compassion is what connects each and every one of you. For it cannot exist in the same breath with judgment. It cannot exist in the same breath with fear. It can only exist in conjunction with love.

When you doubt yourself, look towards the dawn and remind yourself that it reflects back to you that which is your true nature. That which is the true nature of all of creation, of all those with whom you interact every day.

Move your focus from that mind of yours which sees fault and flaws and fears. Move your focus instead to your heart, that part of you which knows only love and compassion. See the flame within and accept that you are at the dawn of your own awakening. The time is now, Dear One. You are ready. You need not question whether you have prepared enough. For the world needs you now to allow your internal light to ignite others to action and awakening.

Reflect upon this as you begin your day, as you see the majesty of the Mother as she stretches outward from the horizon time and time again. She moves across your globe encouraging all to awaken with her. Her light never ceases, just as your light continues to shine, though often hidden by doubt.

Emerge in all of your glory, Dear One.

Trust that you can make a difference

With every breath that you take.

Share your light with others

And see how they awaken as the connection grows.

Be at peace, Dear One.

For you are the embodiment of love and strength and compassion.

You are an extension of our love.

Dear One with All of Thee.

A Personal Note Today

I woke this morning feeling intense sadness, wanting to throw the covers over my head and weep. I know that I am not the only one affected by the state of the country and election coverage, the state of the world in all of its growth and change. And I know from all of the teachings I have received over the years that the best thing I can do is to keep my spirits, my energies, high and not allow the oppression permeating the present to bring me down along with it.

Am I so naïve to think that we as a people can rise above this negativity that has been dividing our country, our world? Am I being unrealistic to believe that there is hope that we will learn from these times of strife and contention; learn that there is a better way to live side by side with each other, allowing diversity to enrich us rather than diminish us?

My guides, whom I trust implicitly, continue to talk about unconditional love, for each and every one of us. If we are a part of the Divine, which I truly believe, then can we begin to see that spark of the Divine in everyone around us? Can we find that piece of the Divine within, bring it forth and allow it to guide us rather than follow the fear-based rhetoric of others?

For I do believe it begins with us. I do believe that each and every one of us has the potential to make a difference as the acts of kindness we generate extend out and beyond our inner circles.  And I will hold onto those beliefs as I begin my day and move through it with the grace I know lives within me and within all of creation.

There are so many of you out there doing the work to help make this world a better place. And often that begins with doing the inner work, healing our personal wounds with compassion for self and others. It is to you I say thank you. Thank you for the courage and the determination to be the best that you can be. For it is not always easy to move forward in this human condition. We get distracted, just as children do, by the loudest voices, the dramatic scenarios and the promise of quick fixes.

As these posts have stated repeatedly, the truth lies in that quiet voice within, that voice which many still do not trust when it speaks. Trust it. Give it time and space to guide you during moments of stillness throughout your day. We, each and every one of us, have more power than we realize to create a world of love.

Thank you for allowing me to voice my thoughts. I feel better already just in reminding myself of the potential for love that lies within us all. No matter what happens, I believe in you, in all of us. And I hold divine space for you to walk in your power and love. I join you in the healing process of this world of ours by sending out love, showing compassion and honoring the uniqueness of our individual soul gifts.

The sun is still shining. Mother Earth still supports me in all of her beauty. And I know that my guides continue to cheer me on as I take those baby steps every day. The same is true for you. Believe in yourself and in the miracle of love.

Rumi says ‘The wound is the place where the Light enters you.’

We are at a place today where we are primed for the Light to envelop us with all of its grace.

May we all be filled with that grace and share it with others from this moment on.

Namaste.

Perspective

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Through what lens do you view your world?

One of compassion

Or one of judgment?

Dear One, how you perceive your world and the actions of others affects your response, your behavior and your immediate surroundings. Do you judge others because they do not behave in a manner you deem appropriate? Or do you see others with compassion for what may have occurred in their lives to drive that behavior?

How often has someone not responded to you in a manner you expected? Perhaps they were unkind, uncommunicative, negative or judgmental. What was your reaction to this behavior? Did you immediately judge them, take their actions personally and place them in a specific category in your mind? Or did you bless them and move on?

The human condition can involve suffering; physical, emotional, mental, or spiritual. But how much of this suffering is expanded by your perspective on your life or your interactions with others? Are you able to find the beauty, the joy, in your life despite what others may think, say or do?

Dear One, you are aware of the suffering you have experienced. And if you reflect upon your life, you will see how this suffering may have colored your response to others. Your actions may not have been your best and you may have asked those closest to you for forgiveness.

Can you keep this in mind when others do not respond to you with their best behavior? Can you see them as wounded souls struggling with issues unknown to you? And so, can you not take these interactions personally, causing anger or judgment?

We are not suggesting that you condone such negative behavior or allow another to abuse you in any way. However we do encourage you to find compassion and send love instead. You can still walk away from this behavior, but can you do so in love rather than fear or anger?

Each morning wrap yourself in a white light of loving energy, feel your feet upon the ground and give gratitude for the gift of the new day. Know that you have a choice to surround yourself with the beauty of your true loving nature, or to envelop your being with fear and judgment. This is your choice.

Dear One, remember that you are one with each and every person who crosses your path. Rather than accepting any negativity from another, allowing them to lower your vibration, send them your loving energy to help raise theirs.

You may once have been where they are now. There is no need to add to the fear or suffering they may be experiencing at the present moment. Instead, be secure in knowing that your light has an effect on others; even if you walk away.

Dear One, approach each person with loving kindness every day. If they do not respond in kind, bless them and continue to allow your light to shine. Remember that you are all on a path back to the Source. And there are times when each of you may stumble as you move forward.

Know who you truly are and shine that brilliant light of yours every day.

Judge not yourself or others but try to find compassion for all.

For truly, you are more wondrous, more powerful than you can ever imagine.

Dear One, Dear Being of Light and Love, Dear One with All of Thee.

Lars and the Real Girl

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I recently watched ‘Lars and the Real Girl’ for the second time and once again was touched by the gentleness of this movie. For those who haven’t seen it, the movie is about a young man who thinks a blow-up sex doll is his real girlfriend. What is so poignant about the movie is how the town comes together and treats this temporary delusion of his with compassion; instead of mocking or making fun of him. At the suggestion of his doctor, they all go along with him and treat Bianca as if she were a real person. In one scene when Lars’ family is asking friends for support one outspoken woman lists the idiosyncrasies of the others in the room to make a point. We all have aspects of our lives that may not be considered normal. Really, how do you define ‘normal’ anyway?

What I hope for in this world is that more people will find compassion for others who are not the same as they are. That could mean differences in race, gender, mental or emotional status, physical appearance or financial status. All people need to be treated with respect, for we all have something unique to give to the world. But it begins with each of us, as individuals. It begins with having compassion for ourselves and loving ourselves for who we are in this moment in time. We are all wounded souls in one way or another. And once we give that wounded self the self-love for which it yearns, the healing can begin.

Can we begin to speak highly of ourselves and others and not use those negative terms we have used in the past? Can we find the gift in who we are, in our current state, and share it gently with the world? Can we begin to see the strength that lies behind that open wound? For the mystics say it is through the wounds that our light shines brightest. As far as I am concerned, we all have a journey to walk and each journey is important, significant and necessary for the growth of this world and all who reside within it.

So begin with yourself. If those negative words/thoughts continue to surface, then write a love letter to that wounded part of you. For much of that wound comes from the perception of not being loved. Believe in yourself and your role in changing this world. That role could be as a writer, speaker or activist. Or that role may be as simple as just being present in this world. For your presence does indeed make a difference; every moment of every day. Never doubt that. Let’s begin to change this world by being our authentic selves and sharing the gifts we have to give to the world. Are you with me?