How to Stay Calm

Dear Readers

There is so much uncertainty and fear in the world today. Isolation and sickness, feeling helpless and hopeless about what is occurring. I know it is difficult to keep your spirits and energies up at this time. So I wanted to re-post something I shared during the hurricane season in 2018. There are two exercises that you can do to calm yourself and to help diminish your fears. Acknowledging the emotions we have is important because they are a part of who we are at this time. But by really looking at your fear in the second exercise and really seeing it, you may find that the power it has over you will diminish.

I ask you all to continue to send out love into this world. I do believe that love is stronger than fear and encourage you to reach out only in love and support. Be that source of help and strength for others. And if you need replenishment yourself, then lean on those around you, seen and unseen with gratitude and love.

Sending much love



First, if you are feeling stressed or anxious, you can do this exercise which will help calm you. This is from the tapping community. 

  1. Sit or lie comfortably.
  2. Cross your left ankle over your right ankle.
  3. Extend your arms out in front of you and place the backs of your hands together.
  4. Cross your right hand over your left hand so that you can now clasp your hands together. If done correctly, you now have your right wrist laying on top of your left wrist.
  5. Now rotate your clasped hands under and up to your chest. Elbows are down and your clasped hands are close to your heart area.
  6. Gently allow your tongue to rest on the roof of your mouth.
  7. Now just breathe and enjoy the hug that you are giving yourself.

A dear friend showed me this and I do it often especially if I cannot fall asleep at night due to a racing mind.

Second, this is a meditation to help you overcome your fears.

  1. Close your eyes and think about a fear that you have.
  2. See it in your mind’s eye and answer these questions:
  3. What does your fear look like?
  4. What shape is it?
  5. How tall or wide is it?
  6. Does it have a texture?
  7. What color is it?
  8. Does it have a smell?
  9. Take a good look at it.
  10. Then wipe the slate clear and start this process all over again, once again seeing your fear and answering the same questions. Then wipe the slate clear.
  11. Repeat this process at least 6 times or until your fear has transformed or disappeared.

The point of this exercise is to see your fear. Because once you really look at your fear, you will realize that it is not as powerful as you once thought. This exercise came from one of my shaman friends and again, I apologize that I don’t have the source at hand.

I hope that one or both of these will help you in the coming days. We all can do our part to counteract the fear in this world with love. But it begins with each of us working on our own stuff. And the more balanced each of us can be, the better we can serve the world. Many blessings to you.

6 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. mochateaoh
    Apr 01, 2020 @ 12:44:26

    Thanks, Celine! Much needed advice delivered compassionately.

    My wife and I are well and comfortably sequestered in our new apartment. 🙂 We’re inching forward toward “closing” the sale of our house . . . it’s been a long, slow process due to the virus and closures of most everything. Our apartment is located near one of the biggest malls in Western Washington and it’s a ghost town . . . so strange. All of the lovely amenities we’d hoped to enjoy at our new “digs” are closed. 😦 However, it will inevitably end someday.

    I trust you are well.

    Respectfully, Curt



    • the_tovarysh_connection
      Apr 01, 2020 @ 17:20:59

      So good to hear from you, Curt. Yes, all is well here. Just being careful when grocery shopping, and keeping any outings to a minimum. I’m so lucky to have the acreage I have to keep me busy outdoors and just to be, in the peacefulness of Mother Nature. Be well.


  2. Cheryl Wright
    Apr 01, 2020 @ 19:25:32

    Great advice. Thank you for posting this.


  3. Geri
    May 10, 2020 @ 10:29:43

    Thanks for the wonderful information on how to address fear. When I find myself in that situation again I will tackle it with the 10 steps you posted. Great post.


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